On one of my previous blogs, I discussed how we are all Natural Born Storytellers and we each have one or two or more stories inside of us and it is our responsibility to tell these to others.
Lately, I have been thinking about another story we have inside of us. The story we tell ourselves. We certainly have no problem telling this story and as a matter of fact, we are quite good at telling it over and over again.
- I’m too tired.
- I can’t do this.
- I have no self-control.
- I could never do that.
This narrative is strong and powerful and like any story that we repeatedly hear, we get used to it, we know how it starts, how it plays out and how it ends. And the constant repetition means we gradually identify with it.
- That works for you but it would never work for me.
- Nothing good ever happens to me.
- I feel trapped in my job/relationship/situation.
- I am too old/young.
This narrative defines us. It determines what we can do and what we can’t. It defines our assets, our boundaries, how we view and how we deal with these.
So if your story to you is negative, can you change it? Of course you can. Is it a case of just flipping it on its head?
Yes and no. It is your starting point of course but like any good story, we need to listen to it over and over again, start believing it, start embracing it and start living it. And gradually, you will identify with it.
What story are you telling yourself?